I believe that people are built to heal and grow. Yet, sometimes impediments to healing such as difficulty in relationships, terrible circumstances and, many times, ourselves, get in the way of that natural process.
My passion is to work with couples on their personal healing through creating healthy, relationally responsible, deeply intimate relationships. I specialize in working with couples with a lot of trauma in their histories and/or on the brink of ending things. Couples who are facing infidelity, deep addictions, the slow drip, drip of intimacy dying away until it feels like there is nothing left.
Couples come in saying they want to learn to be more intimate and to communicate better. When we dig just under the surface of these requests, what I find most is that each person wants their partner to be different, deeply different. Each partner wants the best version of the other and they feel they are not getting that. Deep character shifts is what people are asking for. I actually see these deep shifts happening and happening fast in front of me everyday. I work with integration of IPNB and RLT (Relational Life Therapy). Both these models harness the latest in clinical and neurobiological research as well as the inner resources and resilience of each person to create entirely new and happy relationships.
“Family dysfunction rolls from generation to generation like a fire in the woods, until one person has the courage to turn and face the flames. That person brings peace to those who came before him and spares the generations who follow.”-Terry Real
A CONVERSATION WITH JULES
How would you describe therapy with you?
I believe that people are built to heal and grow, yet, sometimes, impediments to healing, such as difficulty in relationships, terrible circumstances and many times, ourselves, get in the way of that natural process. As a therapist, I join with my clients to help them tap into their inner resources so that they can achieve the balance, health and growth that they desire. I focus on creating a relationship in which you trust I will join you through the truth. I find that deep compassion and creativity and humor are the keys to making the safety they need to explore themselves and heal their wounds. I would say that the best way to shortly describe my stance as a therapist is playful, accepting, curious and empathetic.
Sometimes I feel more like a trusted friend and sometimes more like a mirror that reflects you in all of your complexity and beauty and depth so that you can see yourself more truly. I think to find our path back to our best selves we often need the courage of vulnerability and authenticity and so I strive to bring both of those qualities within myself into the therapy space as well. For some people, therapy is about exploration and growth, for others it's about repairing a relationship with a loved one, others have been through some trauma or crisis that they are having trouble dealing with on their own and they need some help. Sometimes people are looking for change, but more often people are looking for help to deal with changes that have been forced upon them. I am often asked what a therapist does and what therapy looks like, the analogy that works best for me is getting stitches. If you get a cut big enough, you may need an intervention such as stitches to heal well. It is not the stitches that heal you, it is your body that heals you but your skin has to be close enough together to be able to do it's magic. The same is true with therapy, sometimes we need help with cleaning out wounds and bringing all our parts into the right configuration before our natural healing process can be successful.
I think that one other important thing to know about me is my training history and how I bring that into the therapy room. Interpersonal Neurobiology is not a therapy but a map of the mind. Because of that background I often bring neuroscience research into the therapy space and all of my treatment planning is rooted in the goal of increasing integration for my clients brains, minds and relationships. I probably focus on what is happening in the body more than some therapists do. That is because one of my biggest influences is Somatic Experiencing, which is great for increasing vertical and bilateral integration and for healing shock trauma. I am also a mindfulness meditator myself and while I don't tend to do a lot of meditation exercises in session I think that it deeply informs my work with clients as I help people to solve their difficulties through non-judgment and self-compassion rather than through pushing and berating themselves (which is so often our western way). I am also trained in Internal Family Systems Therapy, and so I help people talk to their neural networks in a right brained, compassionate and relational way.
How did you decide to become a therapist?
I did not start out as a counselor. I got my bachelor's degree in theatre and became a director in New York City for several years before moving to Austin in 2003. As most people in the theatre do, I had lots and lots of odd jobs to help me make ends meet from waitressing to fixing cars. When I left New York, I did not know what I wanted to do with my life career wise and was feeling just as lost personally. Like many people, I was curious about therapy but didn't think that it would be helpful for me. Eventually (mostly out of desperation) I gave therapy a try and I was shocked to find that I got better. It was through my own experience with counseling that I became a believer in the process and decided to pursue it as a career. I received my Master's in Counseling from St. Edward's University with a dual emphasis in licensed professional counseling and marriage and family therapy.
I decided to focus on trauma recovery through my personal journey in therapy and because I realized quickly that the work in that part of the field aligns so well with how I see people. I view us all as courageous, compassionate, connected beings who's natural state is one of curiosity, spontaneous healing and resiliency. There are things that happen to us that cover up this light, even from ourselves. Many trauma recovery models, like Internal Family Systems and Somatic Experiencing, see that the therapist's job is to assist others in befriending and moving the impediments to their own healing rather than focusing on fixing or healing someone who is broken. I do not believe that those of us who have experienced trauma are broken, though it certainly feels that way sometimes. Trauma recovery work is about finding the resiliency within to prove to ourselves that we are whole and healthy and do not have to live in a present that is ruled by our past.
Some of my favorite work is couples therapy. Most couples come to me with the complaints "I feel like I have a roommate, not a spouse.", "I just don't feel like I have a real partner." and "I don't love the way were are with each other, but we can't seem to stop." I love working with couples who feel they are in real crisis. I find a moment of crisis can be transformational for each person in the couple and for the relationship as a whole. I specialize in helping people create a vision of the type of intimacy they want across five realms: physical, sexual, spiritual, Intellectual and emotional. We identify together what in your mind is causing you each difficulty in creating that vision together and work with proactive tools to create a new, truly intimate relationship. I find couples work exciting, creative and meaningful personally and I think the couples with whom I work can feel my passion for the transformative power of couples counseling. My biggest influences in the couple's realm are Relational Life Therapy (RLT), Intimacy from the Inside Out and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Like my trauma work, I have found deep healing personally through these models.
What is one thing about you or your work that you would want clients to know?
I think that at heart I am driven by creativity and finding the truth of a thing (however complex that might be). Creativity and my seeking nature drive my passions both inside and outside of work. I do little projects (draw, create sculpture, explore the world through a variety of mediums), plan crazy meals, play make believe with my little girl and find ways to be joyful and present with my husband. I am generally interested in constantly expanding my view of how people can be with each other and express their truth in so many different ways.
Juliane Taylor Shore LPC S, LMFT S
FEE: $200/55 minutes
AREAS OF FOCUS: Couples Therapy and Trauma Recovery
SPECIAL SKILLS: Relational Life Therapy, Intimacy from the inside Out, Somatic Experiencing, Internal Family Systems, EMDR
CONTACT: 512-653-0564 firstname.lastname@example.org
I also work with couples in an intensive format, a five hour session with an hour and half lunch break in the middle of the day (this makes 6.5 hours total). The couples intensive costs $1000.00. Couples can use the intensive format in a variety of ways:
a time to determine if moving forward with the relationship is possible
a way to jump start their couples work, following up with hour long sessions once every two weeks or once a month after that
a one time shot to create a new kind of partnership
a way to renew and sure up their commitment to relational health once every 2-3 years
a support for other couples therapy that they are involved with
IPNB Psychotherapy of Austin | 4009 Banister Lane, Two Park Place, Suite 330 Austin, TX 78704 | 512-653-0564 | email