Quick things to know about IPNB couples counselors
• We focus on what will work for your relationship
• We work with couples in all life stages
• We appreciate all kinds of relationships
• We are sex positive
• We work with couples with trauma histories
• We work with sexual issues often
• We invite families into the therapy if it would be
helpful to the process
• We work with couples preparing for marriage
About Couples Counseling
Our couples counselors are focused on increasing interpersonal integration. We use and are trained in a variety of methods and our counselors integrate their different modalities to create a treatment plan that will work best for your relationship. We have therapists who work with Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Gottman Couples Counseling, Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy(PACT), Object Relations Couples Counseling, Internal Family Systems, Mindfulness Couples Therapy, and Polyvagal Theory.
Couples Counseling and Trauma
Sometimes one or both members of a couple have experienced trauma in their past, or more recently, that is affecting the way the couple relationship is working. Couples are often affected by post traumatic stress symptoms when there has been a burglary in the home, a car accident, when there has been a loss, after a partner returns from combat or when one or both members have a history of sexual abuse or domestic violence. Somatic Experiencing, Internal Family Systems and EMDR can be combined with couples therapy to allow us to become our partner’s ally in healing. When we heal these wounds together, the healing reaches beyond the family member who was affected by the incident(s) and can allow for a greater bond and closeness than has been before.
Couples and Sex
Many couples come to us because they are having an issue with their sexual relationship. We have worked with couples who are non orgasmic, have erectile dysfunction, have painful intercourse, have difficulties with low libido, have difficulty with differences in sexual preferences, and who are attempting to open their relationships. We work with a non-judgmental, psycho-educational approach that helps us open up communication about our sexual lives in a safe way. We also look at the different issues that sexual difficulties bring up within the couple relationship. Intimacy is much deeper than the physical bond but the reality is that when couples are having sexual difficulties most report that this is the biggest problem intheir relationship, that it overshadows all of the other issues that they face. Developing open communication, sexual intimacy and safety with each other can be the key to rediscovering your passion and joy.
EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED COUPLES THERAPY was created by Leslie Greenberg and Sue Johnson. Today they practice and research their own versions of these therapies and we use both. The research behind these methods shows high success rates and long term benefits. Based in attachment theory, it helps to improve emotional closeness, relationship stability and safety.
JOHN GOTTMAN’S research has influenced our understanding of relationships significantly because he was one of the first researchers to look at what was going right in relationships, not just what was going wrong. This lead to an understanding of several things that are present in long term successful relationships. By understanding the moves that lead couples towards break up and replacing those behaviors with moves that bring us closer together we can create lasting change in a couples problematic dynamics.
INTIMACY FROM THE INSIDE OUT (IFIO) research has influenced our understanding of relationships significantly because he was one of the first researchers to look at what was going right in relationships, not just what was going wrong. This lead to an understanding of several things that are present in longterm successful relationships. By understanding the moves that lead couples towards break up and replacing those behaviors with moves that bring us closer together we can create lasting change in a couples problematic dynamics.
RELATIONAL LIFE THERAPY (RLT) is a couples therapy developed by Terrence Real, author of The New Rules of Marriage. Intimacy is only possible when a couple has true equality and good boundaries. We are all raised in a culture that does not know how to do relationships well and so our models of marriage are often lacking. The RLT therapist works to help you identify the patterns of communication that keep you out of intimacy. We work to create a relationship that is fully respectful of both self and partner so that you can achieve intimacy across all five planes: emotional, intellectual, sexual, physical and spiritual.
BOOKS FOR COUPLES:
The New Rules for Marriage by Terrence Real
How Can I Get Through to You by Terrence Real
Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson
The Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work
by John Gottman
Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin
The Relationship Cure by John Gottman
Intimacy from the Inside Out by Toni Herbine-Blank
Mating in Captivity by Ester Perrel
Sexual Intelligence by Marty Klien
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
BOOKS FOR FAMILIES:
Whole Brain Child by Dan Siegel
Parenting from the Inside Out by Dan Siegel
No Drama Discipline by Dan Siegel
Brainstorm by Dan Siegel
The Secrets of Happy Families by Bruce Feiler
Happiest Toddler on the Block by Harvey Karp
Happiest Baby on the Block by Harvey Karp
Trauma Proofing Your Kids
by Peter Levine and Maggie Kline
Family Rules by Kenneth Kaye
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman
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