Interpersonal Neurobiology, Relational Life Therapy, Coherence Therapy, Sand Tray Therapy, Intensive Therapy
Jen offers free consultations, please contact her to see if you all are a good fit.
Jen is warm, welcoming and sharp. She has a vision for relational health that is clear and teachable. Jen has a focus is on teaching and coaching, as well as repair and healing with her couples. She also sees individual adults who want healthier relationships. If you are struggling with connection, either with your partner, a friend, or your family, she's happy to help. When we do not feel connected it can become harder to go out maintain friendships and meet new people. She wants to help you understand where your pain is coming from, offer support, compassion, and tools that will invite healing and lasting change.
When we are not in connection, Jen understands how much it hurts. She knows the pain of isolation and the pain that comes with toxic relationships. Jen has had personal experience living with both kinds. Several years ago, she found myself in a series of unhealthy relationships. Looking back, she would say she thought she had found herself at a sort of relational rock bottom. She did not trust herself, and she certainly did not trust others. Eventually, she ended up in a therapist office for the first time. Her therapist helped her tend to the wounds that came with uncertainty, the erosion of self-love, and disconnect with others. She helped her gain the self-knowledge and self-compassion that she needed to heal, to connect to herself, and to feel whole again.
Through that experience, Jen realized that she wanted to commit her life to helping other people build relational health in their lives. Her passion is to help you understand what is getting in the way of your ability to be in a healthy, fulfilling, and lasting relationship. She believes that the journey to relational health starts with your relationship with yourself. Once you can begin to view yourself with more compassion, then you can start to show up with more nuance and more fully in your relationships. Connecting to yourself is the foundation that will support you as you build and maintain relational health with romantic partners, friends, family, and your community. This importance of first understanding yourself and then extending it to others, is the cornerstone of her approach whether working with an individual or a couple.
When she is not helping others, she can usually be found reading about neuroscience, soaking up a feel good podcast, working on a puzzle, or rewatching “The Office”. She loves traveling and exploring new places with her husband, Cliff. They love hiking together at the green belt with their four-legged child, Baloo. They also enjoy time with their friends and family.
How does talking to someone help?
People heal in connection, and one way we can connect is by telling our story. Our story is made up of our past experiences, and each experience is like a piece of a puzzle. When a part of our story is traumatic, painful, or overwhelming, our body has a hard time differentiating between that trauma and the present moment. By talking to someone and telling our story we are putting the pieces of the puzzle together. As those pieces come together and become part of a bigger picture, our brain and body will begin to make sense of our story, our world, and how our life experiences have affected us. By making sense of our story we begin the process of understanding our own mind, which will lead to a healthier relationship with ourselves, our family, and our community.
What does the consultation process look like?
Before we start our journey together, I want to be able to introduce myself and get to know you a little bit. I offer a free 30-minute consultation either over the phone or over video call. During our consultation session, I will ask you about the support you are looking for, and I will also let you know how I might be able to help. We will also talk about available times and fees, because I want to make sure our schedules complement each other and I am a good fit for you financially. To schedule your consultation you can send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org, or give me a call at 512-557-0944. I'm looking forward to connecting with you soon!
What can people expect in a session with you?
The scope of each session is different depending on where we are in your healing journey. Consistent across my work is that I am active, open and engaged during our sessions. Whether that is actively listening, consciously nurturing continuity between sessions through coherence work, or using myself as a relational role model. During sessions, I also teach and coach relational skills. In every session, my hope is to meet you where you are and walk alongside you as a guide.
What is your first question for a client, and why?
“If you were able to look into the future and things were better and your time spent here was worth it, what is different about your life/your relationship? How are things better for you? What do you have in the future that you may not have now?” This question helps me understand what kind of change you are seeking. It provides an opportunity for us to begin to build a map that will guide our work together.
What kind of issues do you love to work with, and how did you come to love that work?
I specialize in helping people who:
Have a history of family or relational trauma; are wanting develop healthy self-esteem; struggle to maintain close relationships; experience loneliness; struggle with depression; experience anxiety in their relationships; would like to learn how to develop and communicate healthy boundaries
I specialize in helping couples who:
Want to learn effective strategies that will help both partners get more of what they want; want to learn how to make requests rather than complaints; have a hard time repairing and want to learn how to speak and respond with love and clarity; feel stuck in a vicious circle and keep fighting about the same things; would benefit from learning how to set healthy boundaries with themselves and with others; want to cultivate trust, open communication, and achieve transformative change
My love for this type of work was born out of my own struggles in relationships, and through my own therapeutic process. My personal growth in therapy was strengthened when I started to understand myself through the lens of Interpersonal Neurobiology. I love learning about how relationships impact our brains, and I believe that understanding our own mind is the way toward healing. My love for working with couples was ignited after I was introduced to Terry Real’s work, Relational Life Therapy. This approach offers tangible steps that invite change in how you relate to yourself, your partner, your family, friends, and community. I’ve experienced this change firsthand and have become passionate about sharing that same opportunity for growth and healing with the people I have the privilege of working with.
How do you work with that kind of issue?
With Interpersonal Neurobiology, Relational Life Therapy, Sand Tray Therapy, and Coherence Therapy.
What is the best thing you have learned from one of your people?
I have learned that people have an amazing ability to adapt and persevere. We can endure heartache and loss and come out on the other side with a sense of meaning and purpose. It is truly an honor to be part of that healing journey.
I have also learned that by coming to therapy you are providing a gift not only to yourself, but to your partner and family. As Terry Real says, “Family dysfunction rolls down from generation to generation, like a fire in the woods, taking down everything in its path until one person in one generation has the courage to turn and face the flames. That person brings peace to their ancestors and spares the children that follow”.