Juliane Taylor Shore
Family dysfunction travels like wild fire from generation to generation until one brave soul turns around to face the flames. That person brings peace to generations who came before them and spares the generations to come.
Interpersonal Neurobiology, Relational Life Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, Internal Family Systems Therapy, Emotional Transformation Therapy, Coherence Therapy, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, Sand Tray
Price for Services
Currently, all Intensives are full. Please contact Jules if you'd like to join her Intensive Waitlist.
Jules offers one-on-one consultations for therapists. If you want to spend a 50 minute session with her to reflect on your journey as a therapist, to get feedback or clarity on a case you are struggling with, get questions about neurobiology answered, or to process something that's coming up for you in your work as a therapist or coach, she would be more than happy to help.
Jules became a therapist because she stumbled into a therapist's office when she was in a hard space, fought with him for several months over whether or not feelings are important (she argued the were not), and found herself and the other end, transformed.
Jules remembers the very day she looked up at him from a grubby couch in a low cost clinic and said, "Patrick, how do you get your job? I think that I might want it." So, she went to grad school. Still thought the whole thing was probably woohoo BS, and studied neuroscience to try to prove herself wrong... and here she is writing, speaking, running intensive trauma recovery sessions, and relational healing workshops and couple's intensives, all while teaching Interpersonal Neurobiology to anyone who will listen to her.
She has always been passionate about relationships and relational health, and tries to live it well and gets it wrong from time to time. She can get lost in wondering about the nature of reality, and she loves to get lost in the deep acceptance of both/and. Because sitting in not knowing intrigues her, she practices Somatic Experiencing, Internal Family Systems, Relational Life Therapy, and Sand Tray Therapy in her therapy work.
Jules witnesses the healing of souls and the finding of self. And the bravery it takes to turn to a romantic partner and say, "I want you and I know we will miss this up, but let's figure out how to turn to each other and grow this thing," is absolutely beautiful. So, Jules does trauma recovery and couples work (very often at the same time) in her private practice.
Jules is passionate about her husband, daughter, and dog. She loves her dear friends who know all of her, and don't turn away. She is passionate about poetry - her favorite poem of the moment is Poppies, by Mary Oliver. Jules loves a good accent of any kind, but hill country Texas is her favorite..for now. She is in love with this Earth and all of the people in it. Jules is incredibly passionate about welcoming us all, with all of our messiness, and with loving firmness that can create repeat and growth.
Q&A with Juliane Taylor
How does talking to someone help?
When a nervous system is both alone and overwhelmed, memory gets stored in a different way. The way it's stored makes it hard to reach, even while that neural network is activated. What this mean sis that traumas from our past, when we are reminded of them, can create unwanted behaviors now and we can't seem to find a way to stop them.
When painful things happen to us, and it's not encoded as trauma, we often push it away so it stays isolated within our system. This makes perfect sense, pain hurts. Of course we don't want to relive or think constantly about the things that are painful to us. Unfortunately, the speed of emotional reactions means that if we are not in good relationship with our emotional self, that emotional self will drive us subconsciously, and without the benefit of thoughtfulness and regulation.
All of this means that not enough can be said about undoing aloneness. Being in the presence of someone who cares, who listens deeply, who asks questions to help you reflect on your own inner process can help you feel not alone. Being not alone is essential, but it's actually not the only thing that works.
Talking alone is not the only answer though, it is also essential to work with an understanding of neural integration, and the disruption of long term potentiation patterns. When we are dealing with trauma, memory reconsolidation is absolutely essential. Reconsolidation can occur through experiential work, such as Sand Tray Therapy, Emotional Transformation Therapy, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, and Internal Family Systems.
Memory reconsolidation can also be done while talking, we just need to be sure to talk in a particular way, making sure to highlight the entire neural network as it shows up. Often, this does involve having more awareness of the sensations in your body, movements that are waiting in the muscles, and images that are linked to the emotional process. So, talking alone doesn't fix it, but undoing aloneness while following the brain's path to healing does.
What question do you usually ask a client first, and why?
Say we knocked this thing out of the park and you're left thinking that it was worth every hour and every penny, what do you have in your life that you didn't then?
I ask that because people usually come into therapy understanding that they are hurting, but they very rarely know what needs are underlying the pain, anger, anxiety, and depression. I find the faster we get to understanding what needs are not being met for you, the faster we get to knowing what we need to build.
What is the best thing you have learned from one of your people?
I have learned two things that feel equally important to me --
1. Connection is the natural state for all of us.
2. Connection is best supported by good boundary.
With all my people, I see again and again how good boundaries make vulnerability more safe, and vulnerability leads to connection. Connection supports us when life is overwhelming, when we can't face it alone. The truth is we aren't supposed to have to face life alone. I have learned from my people that strength is often found in leaning in and feeling safe enough to do so. I have also seen that learning to trust yourself is a huge part of safety. When we handle life well, it's often the result of treating ourselves with love and respect, and leaning in to those who love us too.
Want Juliane Taylor Shore to speak at your event?
Jules enjoys speaking and teaching engagements. She speaks on a variety of topics including Interpersonal Neurobiology, Polyvagal Theory, Couples Counseling, Therapeutic Presence, and more.
Podcasts you can catch Jules on
with Juliane Taylor Shore, Rebecca Wong, and Victoria Easa
Welcoming Our Protective Systems In A Disorienting World
How Good Boundaries Actually Bring Us Closer
Trauma Affects Relationships
Moving From A Scarcity Mindset To An Abundance Mindset
The Neuroscience Of We
The Science Behind How Your Relationship Can Help You Heal
Why Dating Is A Nightmare For Men & Women
Demo with Jules
Interested in doing a demo session with Jules? Periodically, Jules collects demos of both couples and individual work for the purposes of using those tapes to teach clinicians about therapeutic interventions. All of her demo sessions are two hours long and are completely free. You just need sign a release to allow the tape of your work to be shown in teaching. If you would like to do a demo session, sign up now!